Hi NT5224,
Commisserations for the plight of the plane, but congratulations to you and your wife. You did everything to get the two of you down as safely as possible. I have had three incidents in my 8x years - one, my mistake in which I chose a too short runway and ploughed through a fence, the other two were Alternator failures with loss of electronics including flaps, and comms. The first was embarrassing but my wife and I survived - and I learnt a lot, the other two I stuck to "Aviate, Navigate, Communicate" and did a perfect flapless landing on an airport with a decent length runway. As you now know - getting down safely is the goal.
I'm sure you will spend a lot of time going over what happened, but I hope the insurance payout allows you to get a new machine and get back in the air. If there is one thing I would respectfully suggest - it is get back in the air soon - with an instructor - to both practise engine failures, and to maintain confidence.
I wish you and your wife the best.
Brett